Healing Doesn’t Have to Hurt

They all want to rip my pain away from me.
Heal faster.
Do it this way.
I can fix you.


But slow and steady wins the race,
leaves me intact.
No need to disrespect
the barriers that grew with good intentions
to protect or compensate
for what was already rather short on respect.


It doesn’t have to hurt to heal.
I don’t have to hurt to heal.


Healing moves in gentle ways, the obstacle
not masked or extracted
or even seen as an obstacle,
rather as an ally,
a potential portal to more space
in the body to move without pain,
more freedom in my choices
to live with joy.


The last thing I need is one more enemy,
when I learn to hate myself for all the ways
I fall short of being whole,
when I must worry about being invaded
by the helper I have enlisted to support me.

Slow and steady wins the race.
One twist, one turn,
a little more movement, a little more freedom,
often gives way to an avalanche of living
falling right onto my plate,
more for me to enjoy
right now.
 by Jennifer Arenson, 2005

Tea. Gym. Move/Stretch. Strove. Mretch. I decided I wanted to listen for guidance directly this morning. Sooooo…. I’m listeniiiiiiiinnnnnnnng!!!
Here’s what comes:
Surrender. Continually. Surrender is a moment to moment practice. Once I think I’ve surrendered, I have to go back and do it again! And again!
But wait. I just DID that!
So far it’s quite an effort to maintain a “surrender”. I want to hold on. I want control. But to what am I holding on to? Of what do I want control? Everything! I want everything to go MY way! I want my body to do what I want it to do, to look different. I want it to remain thin and fit while I eat everything I want to eat! I want winter to be summer. Yeah, surrender is a good one for today.
No fear. What’s “no fear” in positive language? That would be...trust? TOTAL TRUST. Whoa! Can I do that?
Not yet, my friends. Not yet.
I mean, what would that feel like? To totally trust in life, that everything will be ok? I think that’s the rub. Even if everything (or most things) are ok right now, right in this moment, today, lately, and have been for a while, can I trust that they will be ok? No, I can’t.
It will be what it will be. I can trust that. It will be what it will be. Like a slingshot, I’m back to surrender.
All the things on my mind. How’s that for a non-sequitur! All the things on my mind. All the things that I don’t get to during the day. And so what? I’m the only one who really cares about these particular things! Everyone else is worrying about what they’re not getting to and it won’t affect them in least what I haven’t gotten to! Unless it’s those who rely on me for something, for dinner, for a phone call, for my companionship or presence, whether at work or in friendship or family-ship. Or for food and walks, play-time and nap time, in the case if my beloved canine. I like being relied upon for these things. For my clients, help in relieving physical and emotional discomfort, as it relates to the physical being, my specialty. I love the gift I’ve been given and I’m so grateful for it. Interestingly, it’s not the most revered gift in our culture. It’s kind of a quiet gift, kind of “in the background”. People are so very grateful when they are out of a pattern of discomfort, as am I when I know how to get free of mine. It’s a deep internal gratitude, ever present.
Gratitude. Do you think gratitude is the “highest” emotion? The one with the highest frequency?
That’s My Three Words for today.
Surrender.
Trust.
Gratitude.
STG!
Char

Today I really need
Tranquility
Steadfastness, and
Perseverance.

I woke up needing something. But what? Sometimes I feel as if there is a void that I can’t quite put my finger on. I have been asking Spirit for guidance. As always, the voice is soft. The voice that may, perhaps, be guiding, gently urging me to write. I’ve been hearing it, “sit down and write...sit down and write...sit down and write...” Really? Me? Write?

“YES”!

Alright, I’ll do it!!

I finally sat down to write. Today marks my first “entry”. They all come with a photo that I took (in most cases) and My Three Words for that day written somewhere on the photo. This is a work in progress, so please bear with me! Sometimes I write directly about what arises from my words and sometimes rather indirectly.

Here’s how My Three Words came about:

Have you ever found yourself obsessing about something? Do your thoughts ever just “loop”, with no resolution to what you’re looping about? And does that drive you crazy?!! Well it does me!

I needed a way to stop this, so I asked Spirit for help. I ended up coming up with a practice to get me out of the stuck place in my mind. It works! Well, most of the time!

I need this tool for the times when I’m feeling “lost” in my own mind; those times when I’m heading down a negative path that I can’t seem to help. Sometimes it seems like it’s through no fault of my own, like there is some power greater than me, greater than my WILL to overcome it or to just change it. Yet my will persists, thank goodness, and my seeking is ceaseless.

My seeking has given birth to this little practice that I would like to share with you on the chance that it may help you, too. It's this: repeating three positive words that are values, qualities or attributes helps me to bring focus back to myself. And when I can feel what they really mean in my heart, I can sometimes reverse or change the path enough to change my frequency. Then this happens: my inner experience changes. Once my inner experience changes, so does my “projector”, which in turn changes my interpretation of what I’m seeing outside of me.

Here’s what came up within the three words that came for me today:

Tranquility. I’m going to cook a healthy lunch. This helps me feel tranquil in 3 ways: 1) the experience of cooking is relaxing for me, 2) knowing I’m eating healthy food gives me a positive jolt, and 3) the result of eating the healthy food: once the nutritious food is digested and absorbed, I actually do feel more relaxed. I notice this every time!
Steadfastness. I’m going to do what I set out to do today and organize all of my notes so I can move forward with at least a bit of organization.
Perseverance. I will persevere with this activity.
I’ll let you know how it went!
Thanks for reading.

Love, 
​Char

Assurance. What can I be assured of? Man, I just don’t know, yet!
Devotion. What am I truly devoted to? There is one creature that we can surely learn devotion from!
Honesty. Ooo. I realize...and I had to actually realize or get in touch with this...that I don’t quite know if I am actually being honest with myself. I mean if I really ask myself and really explore that, I run into some uncomfortable places. A friend and I were commenting on how we feel like two different people sometimes; the one on the inside and the one projected on the outside. The great thing is that many of us are waking up to this, as uncomfortable as it may be.
If I’m not being honest with myself, I’m not being honest with others. Ugh. And THEN I realized that I’d been covered with some kind of veil that prevented me from seeing that! Ugh again! A veil that was created by me, for me, to protect me from something I perceived as danger. Behind the veil I told myself that I didn’t have to be honest, that it was ok to not be honest – as long as no one else knew – and I hid that pretty well too! It’s all because of fear. We are taught that this is a fearful world and we need to look out for ourselves and trust no one – not even ourselves?!? But I must trust myself in order to stay or be sane. The more I “wake up”, the more the veil(s) lift, the more I realize how un-sane I was and probably am. I don’t want to say “insane”, just un-sane! Because on some level we are all innocent because we are so programmed from birth, from culture, from society, from specific people, from advertising, etc. We are beginning to wake up from our programming. The more I become conscious, the more I can be assured of my inner capacity for self-love, the more I feel into the awakening process, the more devotion I feel toward going deeper, because it gives me a feeling of assurance that if I keep looking, feeling, and seeing, I might just find myself somewhere in here.
One thing I know for sure, my dog (in today’s photo) is the most adorable canine in the world!! She teaches us unconditional love and devotion.
​With Love and Devotion to Awakening,
Char

The most unique aspect of this work is that it follows a set of principles, as opposed to imposing or following any external pre-scribed movements.  We learn to move from within, to follow our own structure, and to use our structure in a way that is unique to us.  Sounds simple, but not so easy.  In our culture, we are taught to do as we are told, not as we intuit. Here, we relearn how to intuit.

The method is systematic.  Underlying fascial twists in the body move the bones out of place, causing discomfort and pain. This is what we are addressing. The objective is to allow the bones to be in right relationship with each other.

Use what's free to free what's not free. Instead of fighting discomfort, use your body's free parts as tools to help you access and release the stuck parts.

Go Slow.

Attention facilitates healing.

Support precedes movement. 

Your body is different today than it is any other day. From session to session we observe subtle differences. You may have some discomfort, but you can get to different places to facilitate unwinding.

Your movements are unique to you. Your path is totally unique. Another person's movements are movements that your structure may not be able to duplicate.  Comparison is the thief of joy! This is one method where you are encouraged to stay focused on yourself!
     Do your best to not download from another method like yoga or linear stretching. We are not striving for postures.  We are not striving at all.

All parts are interdependent on all other parts. Sometimes we are required to be present with each piece. Sometimes that may mean each fiber! Each fiber may elicit a different response within our nervous system. In order to find and stay with them, you must go s-l-o-w.

Listen for what wants to emerge.

Observe your markers of progress.  Your practitioner can help you identify them.

Work just at the edges of movement and pain. The place of the most potential is the place where you don't push to move past or through your stuck-point.  It occurs when you allow, when you slow down and feel, and then act on the subtle information you are given by your tissue.  Ask, "where does it want to go here?"

Part of the process looks like this:
     Connect (one part to another, such as an arm to an arm, arm to hip, arm to leg, foot to knee). Trace the part along what you've connected it to until you come to the end and have taken up all the slack. See what you notice as you follow this path. Twist or turn or tuck the connecting piece. Allow it to follow it's new path. Rest. Feel. Allow.  What emerges?  Trace, follow, don't push!  Allow.  What relaxes? What does your nervous system do? If you take a spontaneous deep breath, you are on the right path.

After about 30 minutes of practice, you may notice some unwinding has taken place. You will feel lighter!

Elements that we use and explore:

trace
tuck
connect (one bone to another)
fit
extend
flex
rotate
allow
relax
feel
sense 
encompass
engage
access
anchor/stabilize
take up slack
support
details
mechanics

Come learn more with us!

After having attended the most recent Minnesota Holistic Medicine Group conference (October 22, 2016), I have a renewed inspiration and appreciation for my “alternative” profession.  I am in deep gratitude for this wonderful group of MD’s, ND’s, DO’s, chiropractors, homeopaths, bodyworkers, healers, mental health professionals, business advisers, natural health advocates, and more, for their acknowledgement of the value of each and every form of healing.

As a younger person in deep physical pain after an accident, I naturally sought relief. Options were few in 1982. I struggled on and off for twelve years before being serendipitously introduced to The Wallace Method of Bodywork.  Its gifts are invaluable, and I have since become a practitioner and teacher. Bodywork is a very important addition to my whole life care. In fact, it is essential to my well-being. Whether it be yoga, dance, massage therapy or, my favorite, The Wallace Method (which I practice daily), all require a little self-reflection and self-awareness. They help me to go within, so I can live more balanced without. There are many other methods available that can help you achieve your goal of moving with greater ease and less or no pain. I encourage you to explore and discover what works best for you.

Earlier today, I read an interesting statement in an AARP Bulletin (May, 2016), made by personal trainer Jonathan Ross. He said that whether you are sedentary or active, you will have pain. AARP paraphrased him: “If you don’t exercise or if you do exercise, you’ll experience discomfort either way.  But if you move often and move well, you’ll have less pain.”  It makes me wonder what his experience is personally and with his clients that they all experience pain.  I ask that because in the experience of both myself and my clients (many of whom are seniors), we can live our lives free of pain. We are not relegated to a life of pain or discomfort just because we are a certain age!  Ask my clients!  If you do not have a pathological condition that is causing your pain (and in some cases, even if you do), we can work together to find the best movement path for you to practice.

Through a lot of trial and error and experimentation with different movement methods, forms of exercise, and dietary and nutritional changes, my colleagues and I have been successful with minimizing and even eliminating physical pain.

Whether you are new to bodywork or are looking for that perfect fit, I welcome you to call and find out if The Wallace Method is right for you.  Many blessings to you along your path, and here’s to a life of ease and comfort!
 








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